Most of what makes a book ‘good’ is that we are reading it at the right moment for us.
Feminism is not about who opens the jar.
It is not about who pays for the date. It is not about who moves the couch. It is not about who kills the bugs. It is not about who cooks the dinner. It’s not even about who stays home with the kids, as long as the decision was made together, after thinking carefully about your situation and coming to an agreement that makes sense for your particular marriage and family.
It is about making sure that nobody ever has to do anything by “default” because of their gender. The stronger person should move the couch. The person who enjoys cooking more, has more time for it, and/or is better at it should do the cooking. Sometimes the stronger person is male, sometimes not. Sometimes the person who is best suited for cooking is female, sometimes not. You should do what works.
But it is also about letting people know that it is okay to change. If you’re a woman who wants to become stronger, that’s great. If you’re a man who wants to learn how to cook, that’s also great. You might start out with a relationship where the guy opens all the jars and the girl cooks all the meals, but you might find that you want to try something else. So try it.
My mom cooks all the meals, my dad does the yard work. But that is because my mom loves to cook and is damn good at it, and my dad loves to be outside and is a self-employed landscaper.
I grew up knowing that what you do comes out of what you love and can do. So I cook, move furniture, and kill bugs because I love to cook, I am strong, and I will take care of my terrified friends.
I was moving all of my furniture out of my room so that the carpet cleaners my landlord hired can do their job. Part of my task involved shifting all of my books around in piles.
As I remembered the stories I own I also remembered how many I have not yet read, despite owning them for years. I remember reading how a person can presumably become an international expert in their field in seven years if they spend one hour a day reading literature related to their field. I remember my need to some mental space.
So I will not be on any social media for the month of August, and will generally try to avoid the internet in general.
I’ve got some books to read.